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Kids come first, especially at holidays

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

Q: October marked the beginning of the holidays at my children’s school. There are Halloween parades and Thanksgiving feasts, and they are even doing a play at the middle school. I know you are an advocate of spending the holidays together, but I hate my ex. I don’t want to be anywhere near her, let alone be around her at the holiday festivities at the kids’ school. Please tell me I don’t have to endure time with her. She’s so obnoxious, and it can’t be good for my children to witness my utter and complete misery.A: First, let me clarify something: I am not an advocate of spending holidays together; I am an advocate for co-parenting, and if parents find themselves comfortable spending the holidays with the kids, that is their choice. But being a good co-parent does not mean you must spend the holidays with your ex and the kids. Things are radically different after a breakup and that must be acknowledged. Some very responsible co-parents choose to celebrate separately. That is ...

Savor the rich scents of the season

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

When you think about your favorite things this time of year, what are the scents that top the list?For so many, the quintessential fragrance of autumn is pumpkin. But there’s also the always-comforting and familiar smell of apple with cinnamon — in a pie, maybe, or a crisp. Or a plum tart spiced with vanilla and cardamom.I also love earthy and musky fragrances this time of year — delights like tobacco and cedar, and sandalwood.Whatever your personal preferences, the latest fragrance potions of the season are just the thing to warm up the chill in the air — whether you use them as a body spray, as a lotion or soap/body wash, spritz your bed linens, your bathroom, as a diffuser throughout your home, or in your car. The point is to surround yourself with the scent of coziness.A favorite is Guerlain’s new-this-season L’art & La Mature Tobacco Honey ($380 for 100ml on guerlain.com). It’s an unusual balance of typically masculine (tobacco) and feminine (honey) scents, and that  wonder...

‘Lawmen: Bass Reeves’ brings Western legacy to life

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

Thanks to prolific, award-winning screenwriter and creator Taylor Sheridan (“Yellowstone”), the Western continues to thrive with Sunday’s new anthology series, “Lawmen: Bass Reeves” starring David Oyelowo as the first Black US Marshal west of the Mississippi.Sheridan and Oyelowo executive-produced this initial entry which was created and written by showrunner Chad Feehan, 45.“Lawmen,” which premieres on Paramount+, covers in eight episodes the amazing trajectory of Reeves’ storied career beginning in 1862 when as a slave he’s conscripted to fight in the Confederate Army. He escaped and spent years living with indigenous tribes before making over 3,000 arrests in law enforcement.“I grew up in Fort Worth, Texas,” Feehan began in a Zoom interview. “I heard stories about Bass as a kid but they were always akin to the gunslinger tales of pursuing hardened criminals in the Wild West.“For whatever reason, those stories embedded themselves in my consciousness. Over the yea...

Dear Abby: Marriage to abusive drunk a nightmare

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

Dear Abby: I’ve been married to my husband for almost 43 years. We haven’t had sex in more than 10 years. He is a nasty drunk, which has grown worse. He is emotionally abusive and calls me lazy and fat.He hurt his right shoulder three years ago and refused to seek medical attention for it. Two years ago, he had all his teeth extracted. Since then, he has lost at least 50 pounds, which, unfortunately, I seem to have gained. He drinks until he’s falling-down drunk at least twice a week, and he then becomes nasty with me and our daughter. What should I do? — Hopeless in TexasDear Hopeless: The relationship you have with your husband isn’t a healthy one. Start getting yourself in better physical shape. Once you begin to take care of yourself, the better you will feel physically and emotionally. Begin attending Al-Anon meetings. There are many in almost every community. You can find a location at al-anon.org/info. Al-Anon is an offshoot of AA, and was create...

Arrest made in shooting at a Chula Vista mall

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

Editor's Note: This story has been updated to reflect that four people were injured in the shooting, including one person that did not sustain a gunshot wound.CHULA VISTA, Calif. -- A 15-year-old boy was arrested in connection to a shooting that left four people wounded at a shopping mall in Chula Vista last weekend.The Chula Vista Police Department said authorities arrested the juvenile in San Diego without incident on Friday, Nov. 3. Due to his age, no additional suspect information is being released at this time. Can you believe it? These five San Diego zip codes are among priciest for homebuyers The shooting took place at Novo Brazil, located in the Otay Ranch Town Center. Three gunshot victims were located by officers, and all were transported to local hospitals with non-life threatening injuries, police said. A fourth person was also transported to a hospital for treatment of a non-life threatening injury that authorities believe was caused by a bullet grazing her leg.A vid...

The Loop Fantasy Football Update Week 9: Last-minute moves

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

UPDATE: 11:22 p.m. Saturday Quarterbacks are still in the spotlight in this QB-light Week 9. While Cleveland’s Deshaun Watson is now expected to return to the lineup tomorrow, the Rams’ Matthew Stafford is now reportedly sitting out this week.The Giants’ Daniel Jones is also expected to return, but that will not help New York much with the ruling out of star tight end Darren Waller.Other players ruled out on Saturday include Arizona RB Emari Demercado, Chargers RB Joshua Palmer and Washington WR Curtis Samuel.ORIGINAL POST: noon WednesdayReplacing a productive quarterback with a torn Achilles’ tendon can be tough for a professional football team like, say, your Minnesota Vikings.But losing someone like Kirk Cousins at the midway point of the fantasy football season can be equally crushing.The Vikings are turning to rookie Jaren Hall and recently acquired journeyman Josh Dobbs in the hopes of salvaging their so-far 4-4 campaign. For fantasy mavens needing a sudden replacement for No....

American Legion hosts "Thank a Vet" free dinner

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

DELMAR, N.Y. (NEWS10) -Around 500 members make up the American Legion, the Sons of the American Legion, and the Auxiliary at the Blanchard-Currey Post #1040. Together, they made sure about 150 veterans and their loved ones got a free dinner.Commander of the Sons, Joseph Benoit, says they host the "Thank a Vet" roast pork dinner as a tradition to honor service members. "Every year around Veteran’s Day, and because Veteran’s Day falls on next Saturday, we are doing it a week early because of the parade and things of that nature. We want the veterans to have an opportunity to participate in that as well." ACSO, Watervliet try to fill Thanksgiving delivery gaps In active duty or not, service members were acknowledged by their branch and era of conflict. One hero who served in World War II attended the dinner."It’s just a real honor to be able to sit with everybody. Navy, Air Force, Marines, Coast Guard, Army, all of us together as one family. We can talk about the challenges we’ve had...

Snow season arrives early at Big Bear Mountain

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

Big Bear Mountain's snow season is officially underway.With evening temperatures dropping into the 20s last week in the mountain town, the Big Bear Snow Play fired up its snow guns to make a winter wonderland of white stuff for Southern Californians.From Oct. 29 to Nov. 2, the destination, which is home to the region's largest snow tubing hill, accumulated over three feet of the white stuff — enough for it to open on Saturday with an early start to the season.“The weather conditions this past week were absolutely ideal for making snow,” Big Bear Snow Play General Manager Kim Voigt said in a press release. “The results are just astonishing with three to four feet of snow. We’re happy to announce that the snow season starts now!”According to a Snow Play spokesperson, the destination will be able to continue snowmaking overnight for the next week, as forecasts are showing ideal conditions. As winter continues, it will eventually be blanketed with more than 20 feet of snow on eight runs...

Suspects flee on foot after high-speed chase in L.A.

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

At least one person is in custody following a high-speed pursuit through Los Angeles County on Friday night.The two suspects inside the car were initially wanted for an assault with a deadly weapon, according to the Los Angeles Police Department.As the vehicle traveled at high speeds through freeways and surface streets, the suspects eventually pulled over in a neighborhood near West Louise Street and Pacific Avenue in Long Beach.At least one person is in custody following a high-speed pursuit through Los Angeles County on Nov. 3, 2023. (KTLA)At least one person is in custody following a high-speed pursuit through Los Angeles County on Nov. 3, 2023. (KTLA)At least one person is in custody following a high-speed pursuit through Los Angeles County on Nov. 3, 2023. (KTLA)At least one person is in custody following a high-speed pursuit through Los Angeles County on Nov. 3, 2023. (KTLA)At least one person is in custody following a high-speed pursuit through Los Angeles County on Nov. 3, ...

It’s only getting worse for the San Jose Sharks. Are there any answers left?

Published Mon, 23 Dec 2024 18:33:53 GMT

SAN JOSE – Now, the San Jose Sharks are only one loss away from making NHL history in the most undesirable way.For three-plus weeks, the Sharks have juggled forward lineups and defense pairs, gone from one goalie to the other, scratched some players, promoted others, moved centers and wingers up and down the lineup. Maybe they’ve burned incense a time or two.None of it has resulted in a win. In fact, it’s only gotten worse.Saturday, the Sharks allowed two first-period goals before they completely unraveled in what became a 10-2 loss to Erik Karlsson and the Pittsburgh Penguins before an announced sellout crowd of 17,435 at SAP Center.Down 2-0, the Sharks allowed five even-strength goals in less than nine minutes in the second as they were sent hurtling toward their 11th straight loss, matching an NHL record to start a season.San Jose is now 0-10-1, as it became just the fourth team in NHL history, and the third since 2005 when the shootout era began, to lose their first 11 games. Th...